L O V E I S N O T E N O U G H
has suddenly become the name even of a new blog I have just started.
I have studied psychology, I am not a qualified/licensed psychiater or M.D. such as is required to TREAT the mentally ill, however since 1987 I have *been busy* with HUMAN BEHAVIOUR as the topic I undertook to research and study.
Treating people for mental illnesses I would be doing probably, had I been tested as a child and had life been such that educational advisers, caretakers had been educated and trained themselves to SPOT a promising student and SUITABLE to follow a certain university programme.
It was NOT something that would have entered my head as a youngster, nor that of one of my parents, middle, thrifty, law-abiding people, just as their parents, grandparents, my ancestors have been for hundreds of years.
A psychiater needs certain sensitivities, I am sure, and the ability to be with, and help DISTURBED minds.
Most people dislike to have such a profession anyway, and even more people dislike to seek such PROFESSIONAL help, good, better, best assistance to enable themselves coping with LIFE.
That by the way as in:
E M B R A C I N G L I F E
shall be and become an important topic, immediately LINKED to *LOVE IS NOT ENOUGH*
When we talk about LOVE and/or *LOVE IS NOT ENOUGH* we ALWAYS relate it to the situation between 2 persons in a *relationship* and then in a relationship most likely based on PHYSICAL *love*.
Well, who does not want to have a great SEX life, always and until *death does us part*. I mean until someone is going to die at a great age of 100+, without ever, ever, ever feeling unhappy, feeling poor, being poor, feeling ill, old, insignificant, incapacitated and a great many more rather nice extra's, such as a great body, beautiful (your own) hair and teeth.
The sad reality about us is: we do not have such, we *only* have what we have now, how we know it is for everyone on our planet, and THAT IS THAT THEN. Is is not!!
EMBRACING LIFE and LOVE IS NOT ENOUGH are related, because when someone is able to develope his/her life in such a way that it is, becomes, stays a joy: AUTOMATICALLY such a human being is a *happy* creature looking for other *creatures*.
I am writing: other *creatures*, either to *love*, to hold, to caress, to care for, to be with and NOW comes the throuble: we often, even usually attract what we do not NEED to get attached to. What is THE BEST FOR YOU is not the uppermost vibration you exude, but usually: how can this person make me happy, and also: how can I fulfill my URGES (by doing something for someone else).
Do you see what I mean? We, and probably always, do something in order to FEEL GOOD ourselves. It is not bad, or evil, it is just something we do - because when we can do something for others because we want to: and others feel grateful, WE FEEL GOOD, we attach some value to ourselves. In fact it stops us from doing what shall lead to more health for ourselves which is:
BE REALLY SELFISH
We are always busy either *pleasing* others, not only women busy pleasing men, or if lesbian their female partners, or doing something for someone because it is expected of you, because you get paid for this, because you have stopped being ONE human being DEDICATED to life and to what is *best for you*.
What I want to write about is extremely COMPLICATED, and must be the largest field, wood, full of booby-traps to say something about. But I think that I have found my own special NICHE suddenly, it feels like it, to continue with as a professional health coach.
Dr. Sigmund Freud in his time a revolutionary dealing with the deeply hidden consciousness, Dr. Aaron Beck as a great psychiater in more recent history, and I, Willy Holmes-Spoelder as a qualified Applied Kinesiologist and Touch for Health practitioner doing things HER way.
On the following *note* I leave this blog:
- If God's ways are mysterious, and I would believe it: it certainly has been eventful - what I needed to do in order to FEEL better again.
I however prefer to think about such in my own way: I and only I came as far and as healed as I am today: no prayers to God, not even God's assistance provided me with all REAL knowledge, every skill I did acquire or develope myself.
And: THE TIMES were *with me*.
Thanks to the unbelievable developments in science, research, thanks to our most treasured technical facilities to PUBLICISE, to promote products online, to REACH as many persons on the planet through Internet possible:
I - AM - ABLE - TO - TELL - EVERYONE - EVERYTHING that I know.
Next week I shall be in Amsterdam - The Netherlands, and the thought to ask my son if I can borrow his web-designer, web-master, to create my own website (s), assist me remote with this is, becoming more and more something I *hope* can be realized.
And then: creating email-lists, organizing online courses, teleclasses, webinars, one-on-one consults, having a shop where everyone can buy all sorts of nice things - well it has been my dearest wish and my despair well aware meanwhile that here I cannot realize this.
LOVE IS NEVER ENOUGH - and EMBRACING LIFE, 2 great topics for everyone to put into practice and I,
