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Willy Holmes-Spoelder comments

LOVE IS NEVER ENOUGH - since I wrote about this, because I agree fully with the author of the book with this title: psychiater Dr. Aaron Beck - NOTHING AT ALL has changed about this age-old issue, probably dating back to the day when Adam & Eve started *disagreeing*

One year has passed since I published a post, and as I mentioned already on one of my other blogs: when you find your blog BLOCKED, simple because the country I reside in (Turkey) likes to takes such stupid measures, then of course -LIFE GOES ON - even without blogs, also without The POLITICS one narrow-minded Government wants to excercise feeling *in power*

LOVE IS NEVER ENOUGH - and having a *friendship* takes a lot of effort in order to keep it a happy TWO-WAY arrangement.
That I told someone fairly recently. It is rather remarkable I think that people exist who think that THEY can do as suits them - in a friendship - and expect the other person to always initiate contact, and keep things flowing.
It takes 2 - 2 tango, dearie I told that one, and NO, I am NOT coming over to see you (again), this time - your turn - to come and visit me, and for instance come up with some enjoyable suggestions we can pursue together.
Also - I am fed up with *friends* (here) who expect me, the foreigner, to PAY for 2.

Am I *hardening* as a human being? I guess I am, but I am not really. I have become more assertive and no longer anxious to have *friends* (like that)

I just *love* some beautiful, very elegant and expensive beaded summer sandals I recently saw in a shop window here, of all places, and just could not resist them. Where I live now, bare feet throughout the summer is normal. Dutch clogs would be the most sensible footwear or when it is soggy Wellingtons. Of course that I do not do, even if it makes sense.

With these few (residential) current remarks: until posting on this blog *comes from inspiration* and seriously, really about LOVE IS NOT ENOUGH.

Kaya Köyü, near Fethiye, MUGLA in TURKEY, 25th October 2011

Willy Holmes-Spoelder
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LOVE - is never enough

Dr. Aaron Beck and Dr. Sigmund Freud. The first one still alive and with enormous respect I thank him for the fantastic book, helping me to help myself and others, that he wrote and its title

L O V E I S N E V E R E N O U G H

L O V E I S N O T E N O U G H

has suddenly become the name even of a new blog I have just started.

I have studied psychology, I am not a qualified/licensed psychiater or M.D. such as is required to TREAT the mentally ill, however since 1987 I have *been busy* with HUMAN BEHAVIOUR as the topic I undertook to research and study.

Treating people for mental illnesses I would be doing probably, had I been tested as a child and had life been such that educational advisers, caretakers had been educated and trained themselves to SPOT a promising student and SUITABLE to follow a certain university programme.

It was NOT something that would have entered my head as a youngster, nor that of one of my parents, middle, thrifty, law-abiding people, just as their parents, grandparents, my ancestors have been for hundreds of years.

A psychiater needs certain sensitivities, I am sure, and the ability to be with, and help DISTURBED minds.

Most people dislike to have such a profession anyway, and even more people dislike to seek such PROFESSIONAL help, good, better, best assistance to enable themselves coping with LIFE.

That by the way as in:

E M B R A C I N G L I F E

shall be and become an important topic, immediately LINKED to *LOVE IS NOT ENOUGH*

When we talk about LOVE and/or *LOVE IS NOT ENOUGH* we ALWAYS relate it to the situation between 2 persons in a *relationship* and then in a relationship most likely based on PHYSICAL *love*.

Well, who does not want to have a great SEX life, always and until *death does us part*. I mean until someone is going to die at a great age of 100+, without ever, ever, ever feeling unhappy, feeling poor, being poor, feeling ill, old, insignificant, incapacitated and a great many more rather nice extra's, such as a great body, beautiful (your own) hair and teeth.

The sad reality about us is: we do not have such, we *only* have what we have now, how we know it is for everyone on our planet, and THAT IS THAT THEN. Is is not!!

EMBRACING LIFE and LOVE IS NOT ENOUGH are related, because when someone is able to develope his/her life in such a way that it is, becomes, stays a joy: AUTOMATICALLY such a human being is a *happy* creature looking for other *creatures*.

I am writing: other *creatures*, either to *love*, to hold, to caress, to care for, to be with and NOW comes the throuble: we often, even usually attract what we do not NEED to get attached to. What is THE BEST FOR YOU is not the uppermost vibration you exude, but usually: how can this person make me happy, and also: how can I fulfill my URGES (by doing something for someone else).

Do you see what I mean? We, and probably always, do something in order to FEEL GOOD ourselves. It is not bad, or evil, it is just something we do - because when we can do something for others because we want to: and others feel grateful, WE FEEL GOOD, we attach some value to ourselves. In fact it stops us from doing what shall lead to more health for ourselves which is:

BE REALLY SELFISH

We are always busy either *pleasing* others, not only women busy pleasing men, or if lesbian their female partners, or doing something for someone because it is expected of you, because you get paid for this, because you have stopped being ONE human being DEDICATED to life and to what is *best for you*.

What I want to write about is extremely COMPLICATED, and must be the largest field, wood, full of booby-traps to say something about. But I think that I have found my own special NICHE suddenly, it feels like it, to continue with as a professional health coach.

Dr. Sigmund Freud in his time a revolutionary dealing with the deeply hidden consciousness, Dr. Aaron Beck as a great psychiater in more recent history, and I, Willy Holmes-Spoelder as a qualified Applied Kinesiologist and Touch for Health practitioner doing things HER way.

On the following *note* I leave this blog:

- If God's ways are mysterious, and I would believe it: it certainly has been eventful - what I needed to do in order to FEEL better again.

I however prefer to think about such in my own way: I and only I came as far and as healed as I am today: no prayers to God, not even God's assistance provided me with all REAL knowledge, every skill I did acquire or develope myself.

And: THE TIMES were *with me*.

Thanks to the unbelievable developments in science, research, thanks to our most treasured technical facilities to PUBLICISE, to promote products online, to REACH as many persons on the planet through Internet possible:

I - AM - ABLE - TO - TELL - EVERYONE - EVERYTHING that I know.

Next week I shall be in Amsterdam - The Netherlands, and the thought to ask my son if I can borrow his web-designer, web-master, to create my own website (s), assist me remote with this is, becoming more and more something I *hope* can be realized.

And then: creating email-lists, organizing online courses, teleclasses, webinars, one-on-one consults, having a shop where everyone can buy all sorts of nice things - well it has been my dearest wish and my despair well aware meanwhile that here I cannot realize this.

LOVE IS NEVER ENOUGH - and EMBRACING LIFE, 2 great topics for everyone to put into practice and I,

LOVE - is never enough

The book *LOVE IS NEVER ENOUGH* - 431 pages of excellent Bahavioural Medicine material, written by Aaron Beck, I found at where I also have been publishing since early 2008: www.scribd.com.

The book *Love is never enough* looked at me, as soon as I noticed it, uploaded by someone I am following or is following me at www.scribd.com. THAT is a book I want!! and I downloaded it happily from the www.scribd.com site to MY OWN computer hard-disc.

Today however, I already had made a mental note to do so: I ordered this book, paperback from the Amazon website. The first time that I actually bought something online from www.amazon.com.

Then I read an email from the spiritual healer Rebecca Marina, who can be found at www.rebeccamarina.com who (miraculously) was offering a free audio class about *Instant Healing of Abuse*

Somehow a few issues came together, it all fitted perfectly within the (metaphysical) frame

(literally) that is there for me to fill with visions, pictures, sights, colours, words, and a lot more

that is worth *my while*.

I felt grateful, although my everyday worries do not change at the moment, I still felt less upset and angry than I have had to cope with because of some irreverible events in my own personal life.

Sometimes things can be avoided, healed, mended, soldered together again. It would be far better too when someone has enough intelligence to deal with personal crises in a calm, wise, intelligent way.

Everybody must agree with that, unless of course someone is a real monster out to kill, evoke wars, and we do have such monsters on our planet causing irrepairable damage, case-in-point of course the 7/11 disaster, caused and created by evil people (and as usual *in the name of God - Allah).

But everyone who is *normal* wishes the happiest life for him/herself, together with others with whom one can enjoy some happy moments in *this one and only life* that everyone of us has.

The issue *LOVE IS NEVER ENOUGH* even though it already is the title of one book, even though it has been written by a brilliant experienced therapist